Forgiving

Forgiving

There are things in life that happens to us that hurt us and we don’t want to forgive of forget. The thing is where does that get us? There are things that people have done to me that I have held such a grudge over it. Instead of getting help over it I just let it eat at me. What does that do? It causes you as a person to waste energy thinking about it and not focusing on what is important. When you focus on those things you can’t do what is right in the situation. I have learned over this time in my life where I am today that I should have not wasted so much energy on what I thought I could not get over, but I did. By doing this it cost me friends and other things. I was such a selfish person and all I thought about was me and my needs and not looking at what others needed. I caused me to be an angry person and not fun to be around. I have learned I don’t have control over anything it is all in Gods hand. I have been very prideful. I was having a conversation with my daughters the other night and they told me that over the past year I was not the dad that they knew. Then my daughter said to me but Dad we are glad to have our Dad back. I told her this it was nothing I did it was God. I am glad they are forgiving and hope they forget the person I was I hope they learn from my mistakes and see without God you will find yourself in places you don’t need to be.

James 3:17 says “but the wisdom from above is first pure, then peace, loving, gentle, compliant, full of mercy and grace fruits, without favoritism and hypocrisy.”  Do you have a tough time forgiving and forgetting? If so welcome to the club. Most of us find it difficult to forgive the people who have hurt us. And that’s too bad because life would be much simpler if we could forgive people “once and for all” and be done with it, but we sometimes can’t and it will cost you. Yet forgiveness is seldom that easy. Usually the decision to forgive is straightforward, but the process of forgiving is more difficult. Forgiveness is a journey that requires time, perseverance, and prayer. If you sincerely wish to forgive someone, pray for that person. And then pray for yourself by asking God to heal your heart. Don’t expect forgiveness to be easy or quick, but rest assured: with God as your partner you can forgive…and you will.