Pass the Ketchup

​A few weeks ago, I thought I could add one more thing to this shelf. Yes, you guessed it, the shelf came falling down along with everything on it. As I stood there, I was thinking what a mess that I have to clean up. I should not have added that last item. I started thinking that by looking at the shelf I never knew it was under such pressure and that by adding something else would cause it to fall. While sitting on this bucket with clutter surrounding me, I started to think about marriages, work and life in general. How many times has your boss added more things to your plate and it caused you to finally crumble. After you crumbled, you think of some stuff you had to clean up because of what you might have said to your boss. It could be worse because now you’re looking for a new job because of what you said. What if you would have told your boss about the amount pressure you were under before he/she added something else to your plate. Do you think you would be cleaning up a mess? I’m going to bet not!
 
Let’s take it a step further into a marriage or relationships. Our spouses/significant take so much from us because they love us, but without thinking we continue to add more and more to their plates. Then that one day you are sitting at the kitchen table and ask your spouse or significant other to pass the ketchup and they lose it. And then you start thinking all I did was to ask them to pass the ketchup, but in reality, you just added something to the shelf and it fell. Now it’s time to start to clean the mess you never saw coming.
 
Sometimes we need to step back and look at the stuff we continue to add to people either at work or at home. We need to set time for us ask questions to make sure we don’t miss anything. It’s important for us to take time to check in with our employees and coworkers but do we take the time to check in with our spouses or significant other? This is something we should all be doing because if we don’t, eventually the shelf will crash and sometimes there is too much damage to the wall to be able to put it back up. Don’t let the wall in your marriage or relationship have too much damage. Take the time to have check-ins and listen.